You find who you really are…

“When you are young, you wait for the world to save you. You think that a Europe trip would ease your worries away, and a ‘Miss you’ text from that one person who you think about everyday but still don’t talk to will help you live a little better. You are alive in your head more than this miserable physical world. You think that you are never going to be fine and maybe this is the best that you can have. But when you grow older, everything changes. You realize that grand gestures and other people do not save you, mundane things in your everyday life do.

You do not daydream of trips to soothe your mind anymore. Instead, you stand in front of the balcony and look at the glowing orange moon while sipping your coffee and somehow it makes you feel a little less lonely. It’s as if the moon can look back at you and listen to all the rambles of your heart. You make a playlist for almost everything to finishing the last episode of your new favorite show. It’s like a time capsule that you revisit all the time just to remember how you’ve lived your life.

You come home tired and lay on your sofa but the way your home smell makes you feel like you belong somewhere. You realize that intimacy isn’t just physical or romantic. You catch sunsets every evening because you love the way they remind you that there’s a new day ahead. You find that you have stopped giving in to unnecessary stress and you live your life by your intentions and not your habits. You empty your pockets and let go of all the things that are too heavy for you to carry. And when someone offers you their half-hearted love, you smile and refuse because you have realized that looking for love is synonymous to looking for yourself. When you find who you really are, you find love because they are the same. And instead of searching for the world to save you, you finally learn to save yourself….”

Every Beginning Is Different…

where beginnings and ends meet

For some of us everyday is a new beginning, and each new beginning is another beginnings end, and when we finish only to fail, we fail to finish off everything that we dreamt and tomorrow is a cycle, a circle of no tomorrows, round and round till we have no more rounds to go, and we turn back around waiting for the mend.and so, every beginning is different but every ending is always the same.

Trust

#Trust is the string which has to be the strongest in any relationship in order to make the relationship stronger……

Steve Jobs, Some of his Last Words …

Steve Jobs dies a billionaire, with a fortune of $7 billion, at the age of 56 from pancreatic cancer, and here are some of his last words… 👇👇👇

“At this moment, lying on the bed, sick and remembering all my life, I realize that all my recognition and wealth that I have is meaningless in the face of imminent death. You can hire someone to drive a car for you, make money for you – but you can not rent someone to carry the disease for you.

As we get older we are smarter, and we slowly realize that the watch is worth $30 or $300 – both of which show the same time. Whether we drive a car worth $150,000, or a car worth $2000 – the road and distance are the same, we reach the same destination. If we drink a bottle worth $300 or wine worth $10 we’re drunk”

Five Undeniable Facts🔥

-Do not educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be happy. – So when they grow up they will know the value of things, not the price.

-Eat your food as medicine, otherwise you will need to eat your medicine as food.

-Whoever loves you will never leave you, even if he or she has 100 reasons to give up. They will always find one reason to hold on.

-There is a big difference between being human and human being.

-If you want to go fast – go alone! But if you want to go far – go together.

#success #time #money #billionaire #health

Sometimes We need to Fall Apart ….

Sometimes things go wrong. People leave. Hearts break. Stuff that you didn’t want to happen, happens.
Experiences that are out of your control hit you like a wall, and there’s nothing you can do other than accept this phase of life. In those moments, it’s hard to believe that life will be okay again. Because how can it be when everything is going wrong. But things have to get better, don’t they? Bad stuff happens in order for us to appreciate the good, and often things fall apart so that the pieces can join together in a new way, the way that they were supposed to.

Sometimes things go wrong because the patterns that existed were too toxic for us to continue. And because we refuse to step out of our comfort zone and accept what’s meant for us , the natural laws, higher reality, god; they make that change for us. Sometimes things go wrong because there’s no other way for them to go and challenges are essential for growth. And sometimes things go wrong because we’re trying so hard to push pieces that don’t fit together, in order for life to make sense. But those pieces need to fall apart.

We need to fall apart. Life needs to fall apart, so that it can come together the way it was meant too .

Mindset And Capabilities..

People who know you or the people you Know will always be doubtful about your capabilities and the people who don’t know you or the people you didn’t know will always encourage you to do better and will appreciate you for every small step you take. It’s factual and I know it’s tough to hear, Also I am not saying that the people you are familiar with envy you, No, they do care for you but when someone knows you closely they Usually take you for granted and keeps a structured mindset for you and doesn’t allow their mind to think beyond that but strangers ( well-wishers) keep their mind open and appreciate your willingness. That’s how we sometimes fear to open up with our close ones often but not to a stranger. The feeling of judgement is weird enough.

Take Risks….

Take risks…. We are confronted with new opportunities everyday, but we often think that we aren’t capable of it… The chance of failure or worse, embarrassing ourselves keeps us from even trying! These bubbles which we create for ourselves limit our potential… You might be subconsciously holding yourself from finding a new hobby maybe cause you’re too afraid to try something new in case you don’t succeed at it…keep reminding yourselves constantly, that you shouldn’t be afraid of making a mistake.

We are humans after all, we are not perfect, we don’t always make the right decisions but we are definitely given a mind to think… You might not have everything together, but honestly, who does?That doesn’t mean your purpose is any less important… Be brave and believe in yourself… Do whatever makes you happy… Do the things you’ve always wanted to try but the fear has held you back…

You are meant to take the chances, you are meant to takes risks… Don’t let the fears of tomorrow impact the decisions of today… Your happiness matters…. Step out of your own way and just see how much you are capable of, I’m sure you’ll end up surprising yourself… You have this ONE life, live it to the fullest and make yourself proud. You’re LIVING and LEARNING… If you don’t take the jump now, you may never get the chance to… Jump, you got this!!

Promise Yourself.

This journey is about making yourself a happier person. Happiness starts with you with you giving yourself what you wish to receive, with you treating yourself the way you wish to be treated, with you wishing only the best for yourself. You have to feel worthy of happiness in order to own it. You have to take the time to define what happiness means to you. You have to be your own kind of happy. You and only you are responsible for your happiness. You will never have to depend on anyone else for it.
It is not meant to be found in someone else.It is meant to be created by yourself.

I hope you never put your happiness in other people’s hands because you need nobody to be happy. I hope you promise yourself that you will always be there for yourself through good times and bad. There’s a lot of ups and down in this life and that’s why you have to be your own reason to smile, fall in love with making yourself laugh, and do whatever brings you joy. I wish you happiness. But above all this, from the bottom of my heart, I wish you the best kind of love – self love. Because it heals all and you deserve the best.

Love your Flaws..

Yes I maybe flawed enough. But i think it’s great to be flawed. flaws help you fall, get up and realize your mistakes, to be human. striving for excellence is a good thing however perfectionism is unrealistic. We need to strive for a balance between self-improvement and self-acceptance and recognize that self-worth doesn’t have to be earned. it comes from within.
you need to realize that pursuit of happiness is a fundamental human goal, not perfectionism.
it’s alright if things go wrong. it’s alright if you weren’t much prepared, it’s alright to make mistakes. forgive yourself. Do that.
There’s always a next time. mind you always.So just chuck out the thought of being a perfectionist. if you make mistakes, learn to accept them and laugh upon them.You’re enough and you can always do it.

Positive Empower…

It’s not naive to be positive, it’s naive to be a defeatist. When we believe that the worst possible outcome is the most likely outcome, we ignore everything that has ever tried to teach us that, the shadows exist, but they are not permanent, that we are capable of more than we think, that our worst enemy is most often our mind, that when we think we are buried we are often taking the root and preparing to bloom. If your life has handed you uncertainty, it’s okay to be knowing that you can be completely mindful of your present reality while still intent on seeing the good, pursuing the good and becoming the good. This doesn’t make you naive, it makes you empowered.

Not everyone is going to want, accept or know how to receive your energy. Make peace with that and move on. “don’t compromise”, live in your purpose, follow your light and love in your truth.

Reflections…

The reflection that we see every day has nothing to do with how others see us. So calling yourself ugly doesn’t make much sense, because you don’t really get to see yourself. There’s no mirror in your way when you’re laughing or smiling and when happiness is leaking out of you. Only if there would’ve been one you’d see how bright and beautiful you are, in the moments when you’re truly being yourself and not comparing the way you look to others. Our happiness isn’t someone else’s responsibility. It depends solely on us.

You need to give yourself the permission to be happy. You need to decide to be happy regardless of whatever happens externally. People will not always understand you so dare to be different. People will not always believe in you so prepare to work hard. People will not always love like you so keep loving harder. Nobody’s opinion of you is gonna matter when you know who you are. So love yourself enough to walk in your own light even through the darkest paths and free others from the burden of making you happy.

Change Is Constant

“It takes a second, to change the vision”.
It literally takes a single moment. We feel like things are for forever! As if time isn’t supposed to go anywhere. As if the people around us will remain there forever. But it’s all a lie. A big fat lie. Nothing stays. And when it comes to “vision”….
It belongs to the way how we see people. But honestly, in real senses, it belongs to the way how people treat us. In the oceans of amazingness, fantasies, dreams and imaginations. On the heights of friendships and in the depths of trust, it truly takes a single second to change the vision! And it’s easy to say, but hard to understand. It’s kinda slow poisoning. Minute by minute, you realize, things are changing. You fight to keep them all together, but… Things are never meant to be the same always, and eventually, they change, they end up. And, with no other option, you’ve to go with the flow! You’ve to accept the realities. The reality of time. The reality of people. It all comes. And it all goes. Like a blink of an eye. My friend! You’ll also change. Because change is constant. And you cannot run from.

BREATHE!

Is it that difficult? To just follow your heart? To listen what it says? To do what it demands?
Well… Yes.
Sometimes it is difficult. Breathtakingly difficult. You forget to maintain your focus. It requires extra efforts to stay normal, like all others.
But… It doesn’t mean, that you should make this thing as an excuse.
One should never forget to live in the chaos of life.
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
At the end of the day. It entirely depends upon you. What you want to do with your life,

It IS AFTER ALL YOUR OWN DECISIONS. SO MAKE A SOLID DECISION AND DO NOT FEEL THE NEED TO OVERTHINK OR REGRET IT.

Letter to Self ….

The best way to help yourself is to listen.
Listen to your shaking hands, listen to your sweaty palms, listen to your heavy pulsing, to your breathes, your mind rushing,
Listen to your speech fumbling, your existence freezing, your eyes watering,
Everything is about understanding and knowing yourself, and this..is not a crash course.

Calm the gushing of the veins that run under your skin and let yourself just exist in the middle of nowhere. They tell you to be fierce, but there are moments for that; just because you have teeth sharp enough to cut through bones, doesn’t mean you must bite everyone. Allow yourself a piece of you and watch it protect you instead of running from self.

Get ready for the days where you question yourself who you are because growing is becoming and you are going to become so many things. You are going to change your mind but remember to be kind.

The self help books are lying, you’ll not fall head over heels in love with yourself, solitude will not be a thrilling experience, the way to yourself will be painfully slow, there will be days where you feel your highs and your lows, you’ll be sitting idle or sipping your tea, finishing that novel or grabbing the morning newspaper, somewhere in the journey you’ll feel a presence of yourself from within yourself..
and in those moments you realise that there is nothing

…more powerful than someone who knows how to be friends with themselves.

Why do we conceptualize things?

There is always something more to the life we live every second, but you do not realize it when you are actually living the moment.. You realize it after time passes, and suddenly you get this awakening thought inside your mind with a full active force which makes you think about those moments, those little dainty flashes out of that day, and you just assume if I would have not said this but that if I had stopped for a moment a bit longer that I did and so on. We do sometimes realize that things go out of hand, in the flow, and sometimes we do have the control, but we don’t let it happen.
What we sometimes think never blooms in that way, or sometimes it just blossoms unexpectedly.

And then I just stare at the situation happening, analysing, thinking, bothering myself, asking and then stopping…

Why do we conceptualize things?

Nothing in this life is permanent…

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you don’t need to feel positive all the time. It’s okay to feel shitty at times, it’s okay to feel lost, it’s okay to feel that you don’t know where to go and what to do. These are human feelings and this is what life’s all about. Don’t let toxic positivity make you feel that you need to have a control on your feelings or a grip on your life always. It’s totally okay to feel crappy and sad at times. Just keep in mind that this too shall pass cause nothing in this life is permanent.

Live it now or never

Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is not doing anything at all ✨

Give yourself a small break from all the chaos. Applaud yourself for coming this far. Communicate with your inner soul.

Be grateful for this moment. It’s never gonna come back. Life doesn’t have a rewind button.

Live it now or never ✨

Your unhappiness ultimately arises not from the circumstances of your life but from the conditioning of your mind

~E. Tol

I do not exist to impress the world. I exist to live my life in a way that will make me happy.

— Richard Bach

Prioritize you.

you are the most permanent thing in your life. always. that won’t change. ever. so put you first. prioritize you. choose you. you, you, you. your needs, your wants, your dreams, your feelings, your happiness, your peace. never sacrifice any of that, and do not spend your entire life treating people who might be temporary better than you treat yourself.

Behind A Smiling Face .

Behind Every happy Face there is a story , That Helped to hide the sadness and climb the storey .

Behind Every Smile there is a tear shed , that helped to calm down and lift up the head.

Each Heart as some pain only the way of expression is different …

Some hide it in their eyes while some hide it in their SMILE .

“A smile can hide so much pain “

No Reason to stay is a good reason to Go

It’s not an End of the Road.

It’s not an end of the road. Sometimes it so happens that we find ourselves in this situation which feels like a dead end. It feels like you have no other option. It could be anything . It could be a choice you make for your career or relationships or any other thing. It’s just that it’s not possible to run out of options. Mostly because you cannot believe such nonsense after living in a world which itself is made out of billions of possibilities.

I know it feels like it, like you are stuck but let this be your reminder that it’s not for too long. Nothing in this world stops, neither will your possibility to live happily.

Most of us are trapped in the boxes..

When someone talks with me about passion, the thought that comes to my mind is ‘Am I really doing what I am passionate about?’

Be it my job or blogging here, at times, I wonder if I am really doing it because I like it or am I just doing it for the heck of it!I wonder if I have actually understood what I really want in life, for real!I wonder if in life I will ever understand what I really wanna do.

There are people, who know what they want, what makes them happy from heart since almost forever.Then there are people, who during the course of life understand what they want.Also, there are people, who neither find out what really makes them happy in life nor they are concerned to know about this.

The happy part is that I know there is so much that I need to do to make my soul happy, however, the sad part is, I don’t know what!Sometimes I feel I am forcing myself to do a job (because that is what is expected out of you) or doing Business (because you have started it and you cannot back out).

But it leaves me perturbed if this is all I really wanna do? At times, it makes me happy and at times, this all feels like a burden, which I am Helpless to do.Honestly, I feel I am still in the search of finding happiness that makes me happy from within and not something which makes other perceive that ‘She is happy!’

And I think this is the story of most of us. Most of us are trapped in the boxes which bring happiness to us on rare occasions only.

Most of us don’t really know what we actually want from life!

Most of us are still searching for the things that we are genuinely passionate about or wanna do, while being stuck at things that confuse our mind.

And the good part is that we all have a lifetime to look out for our happy zone and that we are still trying to know ourselves better.

Don’t stop striving to find out your ultimate peace and happiness!

Remember, it is never too late. You can always start NOW because it won’t ever end.

Have you found your ultimate peace, passion or happiness? Or are you also stuck in a box that doesn’t allow you to step out?

Love and Gardening.

Love is supposed to be as selfish as it is giving. You would get your hands all muddy for the seeds only if you expect them to germinate into saplings.

Love is forgiving. The seeds may not respond to the resplendence of your sunshine or the soft nuzzles of your water and all that you’ll mutter underneath your breath would be, “It’s okay.”Love is trying. You’ll say “It’s okay” but keep pouring in all your sunshine and rain on the dead seeds, trying to resurrect them. You won’t give up, even if you consider doing it for a good fifty million times.

Love is anxious. You’ll check the growth of your sapling everyday, measure it frantically to see if your efforts have borne any fruit. And when they don’t, you’ll whine a little, sniff a little, sob a little, but like I said, never give up.

Love is not entirely about admiring the one on the other end, unlike infatuation. If and when your sapling starts growing one day at a time, you’ll keep watching them, not just to behold it’s itsy bitsy green leaves, but also to experience the good vibes that emanate from the sapling whose growth only validates the effort you put in. You will love yourself a tad better around your teeny chlorophyll friend.

Love is definitely the blossoms and berries, but also the weeds and the pests and the thorns around them. And you and your leafy friend shall fight them together.Love is imperfect. One of you always has to wage the greater war. But if it’s love, it’s perhaps worth it, as long as it does not take a toll on your mental health.

Love might not leave, but it’s brightness shall fade. The chlorophyll shall diminish and the summer leaves shall turn yellow with autumn and by winter, the leaves might fall off, but the branches shall stay, naked, half dead. And that’s when you have to love them a wee bit extra.

Love is everything above and nothing above, all at once. And to find out the same, you have to take the leap. Do it, I tell you. Do it.

Breaking Free

And one fine day, you’ll stop trying. Maybe a million attempts later, but you will. You will not reach out to them anymore, not because you aren’t thinking of them, but because you’re thinking of yourself as well now, for a change. You will not ask them if they’re doing okay, not because you’ve ceased caring for them, but because you care for yourself as well now. You will not wait for them to respond to your cries for help because the city of hopes that you’d built around them has finally crumbled down, paving way for light to stream in, making it clear as a summer day that they’ll never come around, even if they’ve said they will. You’ll stop pushing your boundaries of tolerance for them and realize you’ve had enough.

You’ll let go, maybe a number of trials, a thousand relapses and a few TedTalks later, but you will. And you’ll leave without a closure for they were never looking for one. Frankly, their doors were shut already and you were trying to crack open the bolts and you couldn’t. They never let you in, in the first place. And you leaving won’t matter much to them. But it does to you. And you’ve been brave. You’ve made it out of the chasm of wreckage. Do not look back. Let them go.

Don’t go switching

One time, I was sitting in the back of the car beside the window and the sun ray was directly hitting me. I wanted to move to the other side of the car to avoid the heat. Minutes later, now the sunlight is on the other side of the car which I planned to move to. And then I realized something that I can apply to the real life; just because you’re having a hard time doesn’t mean you have to move immediately and start a new, sometimes you have to stay and wait for what is bound to happen. You have to wait and sacrifice it for something better.

It may take time, but it may be worth the wait. Don’t go switching on both sides and magically wish everything to turn out into something you wanted.
Patience is one of the hardest and beautiful things in life. It’s hard to keep your patience, but the exciting part is that you’ll never know what’s next to happen, so you’ll wait for it.

Let’s hope …

To those who are struggling with life, ⁣To those who are thinking that this is the end of your life, ⁣To those who are facing hard times, ⁣To those who are feeling lonely, ⁣To those who have been abandoned from family, ⁣To those who are waiting to have a good family and friends, To those who are not receiving enough love, ⁣To those who have failed in love and life, ⁣To those who have lost their babies and most loved ones,
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It’s completely going to be okay. Has Hope in yourself. It’s okay to feel down and cry. Take your own time and come back stronger. This beautiful life, will definitely reward you back with lots of love, happiness when you believe in it. ⁣There is some kind of magic which will definitely make your life colorful. ⁣So, keep going and never look back. Whatever happens, it will be for good. May this month be filled with more and more laughter and with lots of love.
⁣

The road goes on.

Our life is like a road journey! Sometimes, it’s smooth as there is no traffic. Sometimes, the traffic of expectations and responsibilities limit us down. Sometimes, there is jaam that doesn’t allow us to move past a situation. Sometimes, there are accidents, the low phases that take a while to recover. Sometimes, we just move past, while others are stuck in an accident, only worrying for their well-being. Sometimes, we are a part of accident and pray for the safety of people with us.

With all the road blocks, traffics, accidents, speed breakers, the only thing constant is that the road goes on. There is no end to the road, all you have to do is take turns and change directions to reach your destination. Same is with life. It goes on. For every road block, it is on you if you wish to change the direction or stay stuck in it. The passage of life continues forever, it is not bothered about what you face, just like the road. It doesn’t care if you decide to walk or run! It is only your closed ones that are affected by the way you drive the vehicle of your life. Your life’s steering is in your hands and the road has nothing to do with it. Make sure you reach your destination safe despite all the blocks and hurdles.

Prepared to be broken …

Now that you have fallen so deeply in love, do you fear it fading away? Cause you know nothing good has lasted that long for you ever. A part of you is always prepared to be broken, even though you know you won’t like it and you know how miserable you will be but at the same time you also know it’s a possibility which can knock on your door without a whisper or a warning.

And you know when that day comes you will be down on your knees with your heart broken. You wouldn’t know which piece to pick up first, you will be that broken. But you still take the risk of loving the same person every day without any questions asked, cause that’s how much you love them and you know That a part of you is always prepared to be broken.

Negativity…

I HEARD the most empowering quote the other day and although I’m yet to discover who said it, I want to share it with you: “An entire body of water the size of the Pacific Ocean can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, all the negativity in the world can’t bring you down unless you allow it to get inside your head.” Negative people, negative behavior and negative thoughts have the power to bring us down, drain us of energy, make us feel stuck and stop us living a life we love.

It can be hard to detach yourself from that person or situation, but you can start by realizing that it’s their issue and stuff, not yours. These people are the ones who subtly or not so subtly drain you of energy, are openly critical of you, hostile, angry, or leave you with an uncomfortable or uneasy feeling. Slowly pull yourself away from them. 

Life is unpredictable!

Life is unpredictable! You never know how your life is gonna change in the very next moment. Just a turn around, and you might gain or lose something. Just a message or a call, can bring you lots of happiness or sadness. Every moment you live, defines your life. The mental pressure or peace defines your life. We are made of the moments we live. If a person is rude, there has to be a reason for it. There has to be history to it. There has to be something that bothered her/him to reach that point. If a person is sane, there would be something that got him peace. Everything has a reason and impact. The unpredictable nature of life is no less than a butterfly effect! 

Someone to hear us out.

If a person is sharing their broken pieces with you, it gets important to understand that person. Sometimes, it is only because the person is emotionally vulnerable, and needs someone to hold onto. Not with everyone, a person can get vulnerable. There is sure a reason that a person tried to find solace in you. And no, it is not necessary that the person has some romantic interest in you, and thus trying to open up. Don’t get it wrong! There could be nobody for them to lend an ear. Probably they find a comfort zone in you that they tried to open up. Probably they want you to understand them. Or probably they had reached their breaking point and found you to be available. In any case, it is important to listen to them. To understand them. To give them your undivided attention. They just want someone to listen to them, to hold a conversation with them, so that they can bury the baggage they carry within themselves. They do not want you to give advice. They do not want you to shut them down. They do not want you to say “nothing to worry ,every thing will be fine, ignore”. They just want someone to be there.

Be that someone, you won’t even know how tremendously you will be helping that person. Actively participate in the conversation, ask questions, listen to their story. Help them speak out. Motivate them. Because at the end, we all need someone to hear us out. So, be that person for someone too.

We all live a dual life..

We live in a world where happy faces are always appreciated, thus making it hard for people to show their vulnerability. People are expected to be happy and chirpy all the time, making most of us carry a facade. While our face might have a smile on it, but it is rare to find people, who smile from ear-to-ear. Those genuine laughs and smiles are missing some where. People are so involved in their lives now that sadness has hit them hard and now most of us try to look out for small little moments that can actually make our soul smile and feel happy. We all live a dual life.

A happy faced life for the outer world and a life full of sadness, burden and questions inside. Will there be any soul, who doesn’t have a buried pain? Will there be any human, who has smiled without having a pain in their heart? I wish we could accept people’s sadness as easily as we accept their happy sides. Wish we were more empathetic towards pain and sadness. Probably that would have helped us to get some bright radiant genuine happy smiles.

Debate between your mind and heart.

Has it ever happened with you that you are walking past or using your phone and smiling like an idiot? I am sure we all must have faced this. An incident, a moment, a text, a person flashes through our mind or maybe on our phone and instantly there is that idiot like smile on our face! Those are the little moments, when our heart rules over our brain. When our heart has the strongest control over our senses before our brain starts to question and introspect the person, moment or message. Our heart ensures our happiness first! Your brain will always try to reason the situations, shove questions on your face, make you realize that there can be a parallel reality as well to everything. While all your heart cares about is your happiness, even if it is for a fraction of second before your brain takes over. Your heart knows what can make you happy, thus it is said that follow your heart. Because nothing in this word can be more soothing than a genuine happiness and heart flushed smile.

There will always be a debate between your mind and heart. Your mind will always give you rationales, but if your heart can conquer over those rationales, if your heart guides you towards happiness, choose it. Choose your happiness over everything. We need more people with genuine reasons to be happy. The world needs happy people. The worlds need people smiling while passing by. The world needs people to be with a happy heart. Your happy heart will lead you towards a happy mind. Despite all the conflicts, let your heart win over your brain. Have a happy heart! Your mind, body and life will be bound to flourish! I hope you all are doing great. I hope you all are truly happy and I hope none of us have a fake smile. If there is anyone with troubles. Please speak out. Share!

Overthinking Ruins You.

If overthinking had a face, I want it to look like this! To everyone, who overthinks! I think everyone, once in a life falls into the phase when they start to overthink and evaluate everything being said and done. This feeling of overthinking usually takes over on us, when we are idol. When there is nothing to do, and our brain explodes us with some irrational thoughts and imaginary situations. When we start to think of the alternate end to the situations that we have had dealt or we might deal with. Some unanswered questions start to worry and we can pass the whole night with those thoughts. It gets hard to fall asleep. It gets hard to tame our brain. It gets hard to shut it down.

Well, for some it is not just the nights that bring the dread thoughts, for some, overthinking is a regular activity. Through out the day, their mind works overtime. Overthinking is a part of life as long as it is not excessive and as long as it doesn’t hamper your wellbeing. It comes with age. With the situations you have faced. With responsibilities, with dreams, with societal pressure, with self-acceptance, with expectation, with competition. Your habit of overthinking is related to everything that you do. It is okay. Don’t let anybody shut you down . Everyone’s life is different. Everyone’s struggle is different and so is everyone’s story. Being one from such category, the only thing I can advice is to channelize your thoughts into something good.

If your imagination power is that strong, write. I do that. I have started writing down every possible thought I can. I have tried to make content out of it. I have tried to bring out things that people can relate with. My habit of overthinking is actually helping me. And it has also indirectly reduced my habit because I finally let my words flow, rather than keeping them confined in my brain. or share it with your best pal who can listen to you .I know they will poke me again if I leave them there, so it is better to utter it out. And what better, if I can help others and help in making the world a better place!

Smile and rather than letting your overthinking habit break your heart, turn it into your power!

start to know yourself a little better.

Does it happen with you that sometimes you read or hear something and you immediately feel that it might be for you? Well, people might say that you are self-obsessed but probably there is a part in you that you know can do something like this or might have done something like what you read or heard. There is always a part in us that is hidden to us, the part we don’t know about. We don’t know what we are capable of or to what extent we can go.

But if you ever feel like something is written or said for you, know that your mind and heart knows that you can do something like this. You feel that way because you might have done something similar may be unknowingly or may be your brain is tricking you that you can do something like this. But those vibes are no lie, and those vibes can tell you a lot about you. It tells you the kind of person you can be subconsciously. It tell you that if you are free of inhibitions and restrictions, you can go to that extent. It could be something good, it could be something bad. But, both are a part of us. A part of us that we are not sure if exists. A part of us that we are probably denying or hiding. Next time, whenever you feel that this might be written indirectly for you, go on a self-assessment trip.

Question yourself: are you capable of doing something like this? You will start to know yourself a little better.

Balance your time between your present and future.

You know in a life there are so many things that we want.. May be that job, that house, that trip, that car, that love, and so many things. In this long list of wants, we often forget to live in the moment. We are so busy sulking for the things we dream about, that we tend to forget the things we have. We tend to ignore the people around us, dreaming about that unrequited love or about what your happily ever after should look like. While craving for the dream job, we end up messing our present profession. Instead of enjoying the present job and making it a way to our dream, we end up cluttering our present. There is no harm in ‘wanting’ things and planning for them. But the major harm it causes is to our present. We end up living our present, worrying about our ‘want’.

We get so lost in our dream world that the real world, we live in becomes a distant dream. Yes, to make our dreams come true, we make our present a far off dream. We forget what we losing in the moment. We forget that the relations we have now, need time to nurture. If we water the relations we have now, they will be the only support we have in future. Dream! Dream big! But don’t fall so much for dreams that you cannot even figure out if your life is falling apart. Balance your time between your present and future. Understand that your present self is as important as your future self. A damaged present will only take you to a damaged future. Step up before your dream world makes your present a crooked reality. Balance your present for a happy fruitful future! 

Sometimes being average makes you a better person.

The life of every person goes normal till the moment they reach the heights in any competitive circumstances. If you notice, the more expectations are from those, who are constantly performing good or have performed well once. Be it in exams, be it in office, or be it in any phase of life. Once you hit the road of success, the road of mediocrity is considered demeaning for you. You are yourself under the pressure of performing great, so as to maintain that spot of yours. It is not just the society that puts you under unwanted pressure, but also your mind. Your mind starts to deject the idea of being an average or being a mediocre person. It starts to give false hopes.

It starts to trigger you so that you push yourself even more to achieve greater heights. To you, your average performance doesn’t satisfy you any more and that is where the problem of depression and anxiety starts! Earlier, being average wasn’t an issue for you, and it wasn’t the case that you were not striving for more, but now, being average is your biggest concern. This adds competitive spirit in you, which being an average person was fine, but being a top Grader starts to destroy your relations. It brings jealousy and animosity. It makes you against people and the evil side of your mind might start to misguide you. This is also one reason why being an average person is okay, because sometimes being average makes you a better person. Being at top of every competition is highly addictive. Try to strive for more, but don’t make it your addiction! Enjoy the process more than the end result! Otherwise, while fighting to be at the top of the rat race, you will completely forget to enjoy the way to it. 

Fear of separation will always bother you.

We all are afraid of losing people, wondering how life will be losing the people around us. This thought is enough to scare us! However, while worrying on the feeling of separation, we end up forgetting the power of time. With time, we get habitual of someone’s absence, we get habitual of not listening to their voice or being in their presence. With time, we get busy with other things and find new people. And this is how life goes on. Sure, the new ones cannot take the old memories away and the person gone holds a special place in your heart. But, the void is still filled with time and circumstances. We all have this habit of moving over situations with time, it is just the tag of “moving on” that bothers us.

If the fear of separation exists within you, then trust yourself that the habit of moving on and adjusting into a new circumstance is also a part of you! So never fear away from change! The time will heal you and people around you. Some might take more time as compared to others, but sure there is a ray of hope at the end of every tunnel of separation. We all have faced separation, we all have lost people we could never imagine our life without, and we all are still sailing our boats. We all are still living in between the happy and low phases of our lives, despite separating from closest of people. That is life! Fear of separation will always bother you. But when you know it is necessary, trust time, your surroundings and the habit of moving past! This trust will help you grow in your life! 

Dark and Bright Phases..

At the end of a dark tunnel, there is the brightest light. Every tunnel starts and ends with light and so are the dark phases of your life. Life is always swinging between the dark and bright phases. Just because you are in dark, doesn’t mean that light won’t find you. And similarly, if you are in the brightest phase of life, there will be the days when the light might switch off. That is what candles are for! Even if there is dark, a candle will diminish the darkness and guide you towards the brightest end. That candle is our family and close friends. They motivate us and help us to see the good in the dark. They are the ones, sitting closest to us till the times the darkness is not faded away. Our closed ones are our candles, and the way you would never want a candle to blow out in the dark, same way, don’t let your human candles go away from you. Either it is the darkest or the brightest phase of your life, keep your candles close. And in their dark times, be their guiding light because together, you can brighten up the room better. And together you can make each other’s world a place worth living.

Take control over the thoughts ….

In life, the day you start questioning your wrong actions and thoughts, is the day you start your journey towards self awareness. Has it ever happened to you that your brain sends out some irrational thought and rather than ignoring it you shut yourself up for that? You wonder the kind of person you are turning into or you could have turned into if you would have given into that thought. No person is sane, our mind is a place of mixed thoughts. It is like our head is guided by devils and angels. And it is our choice that make us sane or human. The moment you start to stop and rebuke your brain for every worrisome thought, you start to grow.

Understand that you have developed a strong rational approach towards life and you are on a right path. There are so many times that I end up evaluating my thoughts wondering how could I be this wrong or how could I be this bad or how could I even let this thought pass through my head. Then, I realize that I should be glad that I am wise enough to evaluate my thoughts before executing them. I realize that every person is made up of evil and good thoughts and it is entirely on the person, if they try to take control over the thoughts and suppress it or if they let the thought take over them. Learn to shut and rebuke your mind every time it comes up with an immoral and irrational idea because that it how you will have more control over you and you will move towards peace and growth. Do you also shut or scold your mind every time it comes up with an unreasonable thought? What do you do when your mind surrounds you with groundless ideas? Do you ignore them, work on them or lecture your mind?

Test our Patience ..

Some days are highly frustrating! No matter what you do, everything thing goes wrong and all your efforts are ruined. It is these kinda days that teaches and tests our patience. These are the days that shape us into a wise person or an irresponsible irritable man. It is on you if you can hold on to your irritation and frustration and still sail your boat through the day. Or if you choose to give up, lay down and sulk. Either way you are going to pass your day. The choice is yours, if you still wish to try and make your day productive or sulk pondering on what all went wrong. What’s gone is gone! What wrong had to be done is done, you don’t know what is in store for you the very next second. Giving up and sulking will only add to the wrong happening with you till now. Whereas, getting up and striving to meet end of the day still gives you a ray of hope and a chance of positivity.

A chance that your otherwise dull day might brighten up. The choice is on you entirely! However, your choice also affects your chances. It is on you if you want the positive side of your brain to motivate you or the negative side of your brain to bow you down. It is on you which side of your mind you allows to dominate and dictate your life. Don’t lose hope wondering your day is only going to get wasted . Keep your hopes high , get up and get going!

There is never going to be an end!

What do you write when your mind is blank? What do you reply when you don’t feel like talking? What do you do when there is no answer to the questions bothering you? What do you say when words seems to fade away? What do you do when the only thing important is to divert your mind? What do you do when you fear being alone? What do you do when the darkness starts to dominate you? What do you do when your head becomes a dark place? Is there a way to light up a candle? Is there a way to add thoughts to your mind? Is there a way to bring the words back? Is there a ray fighting your inner demons? What do we do when even after with so many questions your mind is a blank place? What do we do when with so many emotions, your heart is an emotionless place? I guess, there is never going to be an end!

Mechanical movements…

The more we survive sudden losses in our lives, the more our movements grow mechanical. Our power to love, happiness and other emotions get diminished and we start living a mechanical, forced life, that operates more on practicality and time schedules. We start to follow the patterns, working on the orders given, without the sense to fight, without the sense to question. These mechanical movements get us back on the track of life, but do we start living? Or do we forget the loss? I doubt! The loss remains unbearable, it is just that we shift our focus and get ourselves busy in the monotony of life. And that is when the ceremonies and festivals play a role. That is what helps us revoke the dying emotions in us. Those festivities remind us of the emotions we hold and have buried somewhere deep down in ourselves. And thus the balance of sorrows and happiness is needed in life. The happiness and happy days bring back life in our monotonous routine. It reinstates the emotions in us. Your sad days might take away the meaning of living from your life, but your happy days reinstate your belief in your life. Wait for the happy days to come, if you are in a middle of a sorrow. Don’t lose out your hope on life because you too will get out of your mechanical movements, once the happiness strikes you hard.

Why do we run after things throughout our lives?

Why do we run after things throughout our lives? In the race of catching up with so many things, we forget to catch up with the most important thing of our lives! You must be wondering what that is! Some might have even thought of what it could be, and I would love to know the first thing that came to your mind! However, coming back to the race that we are a part of… In school, we were taught to run after grades . Being done with the 12th exams, we were made to race for those entrance exams. College life went in figuring out our future and career. And then began the race of jobs. The race to get better job, handsome salary, lucrative job title and what not.

Even in our love life, we have grown up racing and competing to prove our love, loyalty, compassion and to be the last one standing. Once we are done competing the race of our professional and personal life by “settling down” We pass on the rat race on to our kids. We start to expect the same race for them. But in all this, the race of self love takes a back seat. The race to make ourselves feel happy more than anything else lags behind. Running the rat race of our life, we forget that we need to be happy as well, we need to think about us as well, we need to do things that please us as well.

Even if you win every rat race, if you lose the race of self love, what is the point of everything then? There are so many of us, who spend their life without realizing and understanding the concept of self love. I wish we don’t pass on the stupid idea of race on to our kids and before than anything else teach them to love themselves. I wish we become the generation, who demolish this pattern of race to bring out love instead of competition. 

Everything is temporary..

I wish I could tell you that the magic of the moment would last. I wish I could promise you that the colors you’re staring at won’t start to dim after sunset. That you’d have to do it a certain way or meet a certain person. That people won’t change yet they always do- sometimes the ones we think would stay for the rest of our lives disappear at crosswalks. I wish I could tell you love would carry you above light clouds. I wish I could say the ones we love would always love us back- that we wouldn’t be disappointed, heartbroken or shattered. That promises wouldn’t be broken, that it would hurt less. That our youth would last for a lifetime.
But truthfully, I’m not sure I’m supposed to tell you all that. What I could honestly tell you is: nothing you go through would last forever and even in the darkest situations, the light within you would lead you out. At the end of the day, everything is temporary, even the pain.

Days in Lockdown…

At least I have more time to exercise.At least I can get more reading done.
At least I get to be with my family more.

I couldn’t pinpoint why all those statements didn’t sit well with me, whenever I thought about how the quarantine caused changes in my lifestyle. Then, I realized that it was how privileged I was to be able to look at a pandemic and see silver linings, that bothered me.

Not all of us can sit comfortably at home — with money still entering our bank accounts, cupboards fully stocked to last us weeks, and a list of Netflix films and series to binge watch. Outside, people are dying. Families are starving. And the last thing we should be doing is reframing all of this into a time meant to be spent working on ourselves. Because while this causes a few of us “lucky ones” to gain “more” of anything, there are people experiencing inhumanly less.

I don’t mean to say that we should drive ourselves mad, thinking about how other people are faring. But I hope we never let our desire to uplift our own spirits during a time of crisis erode our empathy. Because to relieve anxiety is one thing; to turn a blind eye to reality is another.

And apart should never mean apathetic.

“Just like we need food and water, humans need each other. A brain study revealed that when placed in an MRI, a patient’s reward center lit up when another person sat in the room. Neurons fire when talk to someone, think about someone, and they go haywire when we hold someone’s hand. Our brains and bodies are actually programmed to seek each other out and connect. So then why do so many people prefer being alone? Why do we often run for the hills when we feel the slightest connection? Why do we feel compelled to fight what we’re hardwired to do? Maybe it’s because when we find someone or something to hold on to, that feeling becomes like air. And we’re terrified we’re going to lose it. And trust me, you can get pretty good at the alone thing. But most things are better when they’re shared with someone else!”
~ Meredith Grey

Understanding the Unfinished You

Have you ever realized that everyone holds an unfinished version of you?

Some remember the moment you cried in front of them. Others remember your laughter, your excitement over a good meal, or the way you spoke when something mattered deeply. Every interaction became a fragment of who they believe you are.

But do they really know you?

Did they ever slow down enough to understand your scars? To see why certain things still hurt? To notice what triggers you and why? Do they know you well enough to joke without being careless? Did they open up to you too, so you felt safe being real?

Most people only see pieces of us. Never the full story. And we forget that far too easily.

So the next time someone says they know you, pause. Ask yourself. Did they truly see me? Or did they only see what I allowed them to see?

Because you are more than moments. More than memories. More than fragments.

Cherishing Life’s Moments: Finding Beauty in the Journey

Life isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about cherishing the moments that make us feel alive. The quiet mornings, the unexpected detours, and the laughter that lingers a bit longer.

For a while, I thought I needed a clear path and a defined purpose. But now, I’ve realized that being lost has led me to the most beautiful places, the deepest lessons, and the most authentic version of myself.

I was a little lost, but a lot was found.

The Universe’s Lessons on Love and Loss

Maybe the universe fights for certain souls to find one another. And it only places people in our lives to take them away, teaching us things that beauty alone can’t. Maybe the universe battles for the heartbreaks, the missed opportunities, the wrong timing – because it knows something important.

Those moments of loss can reveal our inner strength in ways that hope can’t. It is through these losses that we truly find gratitude for all that has stayed. We learn to embrace those who see and protect our souls. This happens when we care for those who make us feel hard to love.

Through the darkened journey, we learn to appreciate the warmth. We learn to chase the light. We also learn to believe in it even when we can’t feel it. We learn to trust that the light is pinned and blooming in this world, waiting to be discovered.

The universe is teaching you to be thankful. Appreciate all that did not work out in your life. It reminds you when something is finally right. Everything you love ruthlessly will love you back with the same conviction. The things you reach for in life, the deep hopes you hold, will reach back to you.

The universe is helping you understand something. The things you ached for but that did not work out were not losses. They did not break or ruin you. Rather, they built you, taught you about yourself, and led you to become the person you were meant to be. They shaped you, challenged you, and helped you grow.

At the end of the day, I hope you remember this: the universe does not take without giving. It does not leave you empty, but rather balances the scales within you. For all that it destroys, it creates. For all that falls apart, something is coming together.

Please, just trust the timing of your life. Remember that you will never lose what is meant for you. The right things will always connect.

Healing a Heart: Embracing Kindness and Strength

I am sorry that the world wasn’t always kind to your heart. I am sorry that you placed your tenderness into the hands of those who do not hold it. You gave so much of yourself to people who made you feel difficult to love. You gave so much of your hope to human beings. They made you feel like you had to apologize for how you cared. I am sorry for the experiences you had with love that made you doubt its kindness. I am sorry that you loved human beings who did not love themselves. I am also sorry you loved people who did not leave softly. I am sorry that love wasn’t always your safe place. I am sorry that love wasn’t always compassionate or light.

I am sorry that the world sometimes fails to protect your soul. The universe sent you certain human beings who were hurt, and in turn, they hurt you. I am sorry you had to carry all that weight inside yourself. I am sorry for the things you had to endure. The world cracked loss into your life. It met you with things you were not prepared for. These were circumstances your hope could not weather. I am sorry you had to heal a heart you did not break. I am sad that you had to do it alone.

I am sorry that the world wasn’t always kind to you. I am sorry. But I am proud of you for being here. I am proud of you for trying to heal in the flood of all that felt unfair and cruel. I am proud of you for continuing to stay soft. The world sometimes favors distance over depth. It sometimes fails to connect. I am proud of you for the person you were and the person you became. I admire the way you dug yourself out of the dark, and how you pushed through the hurt. I am proud of you for your hope. I am proud of you for your belief in goodness. You focused on it when many aspects of your life tried to convince you that it did not exist. I am proud of you for choosing to heal. I am proud of you. You deserved a kinder goodbye. You did not deserve what happened to you. And yet—here you are. Here you are. —– Boo Boo

Compassionate towards yourself..

Whenever you find yourself peeking into other people’s lives, just remember that you never know what really goes on behind closed doors. Everyone is trying their best to make themselves look as good as possible on the outside. Just because people look like they have it all together with smiles on their faces, doesn’t mean they are truly happy.

They could be undergoing an inner crisis.They could be fighting internal battles. They could be
crying on the inside. No one’s life is perfect and no one can avoid the ugly side of life. Even when you are at your lowest point in life, you are not worse than other people.
You are not in competition with anyone, not even yourself. You are on your own journey to reconcile with
yourself and it requires you to be compassionate towards yourself and others instead of comparing yourself to others.

No one wants to disappoint others. Everyone is trying to be positive and doing the best they can. Many people look as if they are enjoying life while on the inside they are not happy. You may think they have better lives than you do, but the truth is no one has it all together. Everyone has their own issues. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Don’t believe the inner critic. No one expects you to have it all together.